The most power you have is to not be available – that makes him want you more. The calling, the emailing, the asking out, etc. Early on, leave all the initiating up to the man. The best thing you can do is not call him. A little resistance helps pique his interest if he’s a frequent texter. Just because he contacts you often doesn’t mean you have to respond right away or with the same frequency. Sometimes, there are also men who like a texting relationship. That is why in some cases, don’t call him and he will call would probably happen. You can even play hard to get in some scenarios that it’s needed as men, most likely, would want something they can never have or is very hard for them to get. Well partly this would actually be true, some men will see you desperate or non-mysterious if you’re the one making the move instead of them. But too much back and forth makes you appear to be an over communicator! Not an attractive trait by any means. I’ll give you this one, although I don’t think it’s necessary. Some women insist on a text the next day to say thank you. Even emailing and texting can be problematic. The man cave is a private space and you shouldn’t approach him there until invited into his world.
Don’t call him because he might see you as invading his privacy
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Men like the chase and when you have a rich, full life and leave the calling to him, your appeal goes up. A woman worth her salt is busy and occupied. Don’t call him because he might misinterpret this as desperationĪny hint of desperation works against you. What’s not readily available is always more attractive – this is the plain and simple truth about attraction. When you start communicating with him, you let him know you aren’t busy. You want a man to wonder about you – what you might be doing. Don’t call him because you minimize your mystery One to two days – very interested 7 days – not so interested.īut when you call him, you now have no idea what he would have done on his own – and that’s the only thing that really matters. This is crucial information because it lets you know about his interest level. Don’t call him because you no longer know when he would have called you Here’s why it’s better to leave initiating communication in his hands: 1. However, the majority of men say they don’t like it.
You may think you’re being nice or showing interest and a small percentage of guys might not mind. When you contact a man by calling, emailing or texting, you are entering his private world. I’ve spoken to lots of men about calling. Not if you want to keep your man interested.Īs you move into the relationship phase, the situation will change again and more direct communication is possible.īut, during the initial dating phase, the first 4 to 10 dates, being direct is a wrong turn that can cause your man to lose interest and worse – withdraw! Don’t Call Him – To call him is to enter his world uninvited This approach is completely appropriate for business, but sorry to say, not for dating. Just say what needs to be said to be very clear and get things done. You see in business, being direct is often the best policy. With workplace equality we enjoy today and so many women in power jobs, there is a new belief that the communication style that works in business is appropriate for dating as well. Women are bolder about communicating with men. Or maybe to tell him something or say hello because you’re thinking about him? You may have these impulses, but I advise my dating coaching clients not to call.Īs a dating coach for women over 40, I’ve noticed a trend emerging in the last 10 years. Don’t Call Him – How Women Over 40 Push Men Awayĭo you feel compelled to call a man you have just started to date to tell him what a great time you had? Or maybe to see why he hasn’t called you? Should you call him? Or is the saying even true, “don’t call him and he will call you?” If you are struggling with picking up the phone – don’t call him!įind out why you lose when you cave first. Facebook 0 Tweet 0 Pin 0 LinkedIn 0 Email 0
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